Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play3160201
If you are merely on the fringes with the bondage toys, or it permeates ab muscles fiber of your being which of your partner/lover too, there is something for all. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are only around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and need rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Come with us, and we'll explore this winding road leading on to the depths of this sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.
Blindfolds and Sensation Play
For some, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust must be willing to wear you make this a magnificent tool. Imagine, as it were, as the shade slips over your eyes, turning how well you see to blackness. Perhaps you can move, much more likely though, you cannot. Your hearing grows more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You will not know what your lover is doing until she or he does it. The skin tingles in anticipation and also at the first touch upon your flesh, whether it is with a knife, a hand, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can envision, you react instantly with a sharp use of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and therefore are the sole focus when you're unable to see.
Earplugs These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For a true sensory deprivation experience, your choices are substantial. On the one hand, you can opt for the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or pharmacies. There are industrial variants which are similar, there are also the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties with other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the experience.
Restraints From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you wish to immobilize your spouse, there are numerous options, depending on what you want to complete and how comfortable your spouse is with that one kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs come with metal D rings attached with which you can affix your binder of preference. Ultimately, the goal of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which often lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control towards the most basic not enough simply being able to touch themselves or you, tying your lover up like an erotic Christmas gift can be a great deal of fun. As with every aspect of this type of fun, safety factors are key. You've got to be sure never to cut off the circulation of blood, and in the truth of saran wrap, the body loses being able to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. Once you remove it, the alternative will be true, and so do a robe or blanket handy.
In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, as there are numerous options besides these that you can experiment with to learn what you like), there are scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy each party potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your partner to get off by doing or wearing a certain thing (even just in public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your alternatives are as boundless as your imagination. So long as you play it safe, and be sure your partner knows that you love her or him and will do right by him or her long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there isn't any end to what you can do.
