Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play6315041
If you are merely about the fringes with the bondage gear, or it permeates ab muscles fiber of your being which of your partner/lover also, there is something for everybody. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are only around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and need rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Have us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of the sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.
Blindfolds and Sensation Play
For many, blindfolds are the quintessential accessory for any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation along with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust needed to be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, if you will, as the shade slips over the eyes, turning your vision to blackness. Perhaps you can move, more inclined though, you can't. Your hearing gets to be more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You will not know what your spouse is doing until she or he does it. Your skin layer tingles in anticipation at the first touch upon your flesh, whether it be with a knife, a hand, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can dream up, you react instantly with a sharp use of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and therefore are the sole focus when you're unable to see.
Earplugs These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. To get a true sensory deprivation experience, your choices are substantial. On the one hand, you can opt for the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or pharmacy. There are industrial variants which are similar, there are also the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties along with other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the knowledge.
Restraints From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you need to immobilize your lover, there are numerous options, according to what you want to complete and how comfortable your lover is with that particular kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs have metal D rings attached to which you can affix your binder of preference. Ultimately, the goal of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which often lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control towards the most basic not enough simply being in a position to touch herself or himself or you, tying your partner up as an erotic Christmas gift could be a great deal of fun. Just like any aspect of this type of fun, safety factors are key. You've got to be sure never to cut off the circulation of blood, and in the case of saran wrap, your body loses its capability to breathe and release heat, so you've got to keep your partner cool. Whenever you remove it, the alternative will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.
In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, because there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to find out what you like), you can find scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy each party potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your lover to get off by doing or wearing a particular thing (even just in public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your alternatives are as boundless as the imagination. So long as you play it safe, and be sure your partner recognizes that you love her or him and will do right by her or him long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there is no end as to the you can do.
