Toys, Tricks and Tears: Having the Most Out of Your BDSM Play368478
Whether you are merely on the fringes with the kinky bondage toys, or it permeates ab muscles fiber of your being understanding that of your partner/lover too, there is something for everybody. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses in order to increase said experiences are only around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and need rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Include us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of the sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.
Blindfolds and Sensation Play
For a few, blindfolds are the quintessential accessory for any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation along with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust needed to be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, if you will, as the shade slips over the eyes, turning your eyesight to blackness. You could move, more likely though, you can't. Your hearing grows more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You may not know what your spouse is doing until they does it. Your skin layer tingles in anticipation and also at the first touch upon your flesh, whether it is with a knife, help, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can dream up, you react instantly with a sharp use of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and are the sole focus when you're unable to see.
Earplugs These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For a true sensory deprivation experience, your choices are substantial. On the other hand, you can choose the cheap memory foam earplugs seen in most grocery or drug stores. There are industrial variants which can be similar, and then there are the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties along with other senses besides sight serves simply to heighten and prolong the experience.
Restraints From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you need to immobilize your lover, there are numerous options, according to what you want to complete and how comfortable your lover is with that one kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs include metal D rings mounted on which you can affix your binder of choice. Ultimately, the goal of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment both for of you. From orgasm control to the most basic not enough simply being in a position to touch themselves or you, tying your spouse up like an erotic Christmas gift could be a great deal of fun. As with any aspect of this sort of fun, safety is key. You have to be sure never to cut off blood circulation, and in the case of saran wrap, your body loses its ability to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. When you remove it, the alternative will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.
In addition to this modest listing of physical options (modest, as there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to discover what you like), you can find scenarios and concepts, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy both parties potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your spouse to get off by doing or wearing a certain thing (during public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your choices are as boundless since your imagination. So long as you play it safe, and be sure your partner sees that you love them and will do right by him or her long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there is no end to what you can do.
