Toys, Tricks and Tears: Obtaining the Most Out of Your BDSM Play5643174
Regardless if you are merely on the fringes with the bondage toys, or it permeates ab muscles fiber of the being and that of your partner/lover as well, there is something for everybody. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses to heighten said experiences are just around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and desire rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) certainly are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Come with us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of this sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.
Blindfolds and Sensation Play
For many, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other locations meshed with the complete and absolute trust must be willing to wear one makes this a magnificent tool. Imagine, for a moment, as the shade slips over the eyes, turning your eyesight to blackness. Perhaps you can move, more inclined though, you can not. Your hearing grows more acute as you pick up on every little sound. You will not know what your lover is doing until he or she does it. Your skin tingles in anticipation and at the first touch upon your flesh, whether it is with a knife, support, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can envision, you react instantly with a sharp consumption of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and so are the sole focus when you're unable to see.
Earplugs These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. To get a true sensory deprivation experience, your options are substantial. On one side, you can opt for the cheap foam earplugs present in most grocery or pharmacies. There are industrial variants which are similar, and there are also the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction option is available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties to other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the experience.
Restraints From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you need to immobilize your lover, there are numerous options, based on what you want to do and how comfortable your spouse is with that one kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs include metal D rings mounted on which you can affix your binder of choice. Ultimately, the goal of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment for both of you. From orgasm control towards the most basic not enough simply being in a position to touch herself or himself or you, tying your lover up such as an erotic Christmas gift can be quite a great deal of fun. As with every aspect of this type of fun, safety factors are key. You've got to be sure to not cut off blood circulation, and in the situation of saran wrap, the body loses being able to breathe and release heat, so you have to keep your partner cool. Whenever you remove it, the alternative will be true, and so do have a robe or blanket handy.
In addition to this modest list of physical options (modest, since there are numerous options besides these which you can experiment with to find out what you like), you will find scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy each party potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your lover to get off by doing or wearing a particular thing (during public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your choices are as boundless as your imagination. If you play it safe, and make sure your partner recognizes that you love them and will do right by them long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there's no end as to what you can do.
