Toys, Tricks and Tears: Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play8998139
Regardless if you are merely around the fringes of the bondage gear, or it permeates the very fiber of your being understanding that of your partner/lover too, there is something for everyone. New experiences and apparatuses to elicit wonderful and varied responses in order to increase said experiences are just around the corner. Elation, even tears (of want and require rather than pain or anguish, since sex should 'never' cause genuine harm) certainly are a real chance with thoughtful, evocative sex play. Include us, and we'll explore this winding road leading down into the depths of that sweet intoxicating blending of passion and pain.
Blindfolds and Sensation Play
For many, blindfolds are the quintessential addition to any D/s playtime. Sensory deprivation coupled with the sensory overload in other areas meshed with the complete and absolute trust would have to be willing to wear you make this a magnificent tool. Imagine, for a moment, as the shade slips over your eyes, turning your vision to blackness. You could move, much more likely though, you can't. Your hearing gets to be more acute while you pick up on every little sound. You will not know what your spouse is doing until he or she does it. The skin tingles in anticipation and at the first touch upon your flesh, be it with a knife, help, an ice cube, hot wax, a clothespin or whatever your imaginations can envision, you react instantly using a sharp intake of breath. Tactile sensations become poignant and so are the sole focus when you're unable to see.
Earplugs These link very, very nicely with blindfolds. For any true sensory deprivation experience, your options are substantial. On the other hand, you can opt for the cheap memory foam earplugs found in most grocery or pharmacies. There are industrial variants which can be similar, and there are also the hoods that some sex shops sell. Intimidating yet finely crafted, these (usually leather, though other construction options are available) hoods provide both visual and auditory deprivation. Cutting ties along with other senses besides sight serves only to heighten and prolong the ability.
Restraints From silk scarves to saran wrap to wrist/ankle cuffs or industrial strength bungee cord, when you need to immobilize your lover, there are numerous options, depending on what you want to complete and how comfortable your spouse is with that specific kink. Many ankle/wrist cuffs include metal D rings attached to which you can affix your binder of preference. Ultimately, the objective of restraint is control. Direct your partner's sensations, which in turn lead to further enjoyment both for of you. From orgasm control to the most basic lack of simply being able to touch herself or himself or you, tying your lover up like an erotic Christmas gift can be quite a great deal of fun. As with any aspect of this kind of fun, safety is key. You must be sure not to cut off blood flow, and in the situation of saran wrap, your body loses its capability to breathe and release heat, so you've got to keep your partner cool. Once you remove it, the alternative will be true, so have a robe or blanket handy.
In addition to this modest set of physical options (modest, since there are numerous options besides these that you can experiment with to find out what you like), you will find scenarios and ideas, which can further heighten the pleasure and joy both sides potentially experience. From conditioning - or honing your lover to get off by doing or wearing a specific thing (during public) to dirty talking, to roleplay, your alternatives are as boundless since your imagination. Providing you play it safe, and be sure your partner knows that you love her or him and will do right by them long after the welts and transient pains of want have faded, there's no end as to what you can do.
