How Do I Bring a Dildo Into Our Sex-life?6695867

In my role like a sexual consultant I have heard every variation of "How do I get my partner to use adult sex toys with me." There are millions of articles on the market, but they're without depth. Obviously the answer is to communicate, but how? And how can you do it in a way that means they are enthusiastic, rather than apprehensive and switched off, or worse, activating insecurities and causing tension plus a breakdown of arousal and attraction? There are emotional variants involved along with different dynamics. So, I made a decision to break down the question into several common dynamics and hey, unless you fit into one and want advice then write within the comments below. Each week I will write another part to the subject.

Man, planning to how to use a jelly dong on his partner when they are not already using toys and actively communicating on them. Woman, using a desire for a specific experience with a toy... wanting her partner to use it on her. Using dildos to enhance a relationship that includes some erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Using toys in a manner that develops, rather than hurts your pleasure capacity and sexual sensitivity to understand more about your relationship and enhance the toolbox. Lets start with "I'm a man, I think it will be so hot to use a dildo in my partner, how do I introduce it to her?"

First of all, sexual communication has to be a priority in most relationship. In case you are uncommunicative to the point where you'll need advice on this, it's time to open up the lines and begin to talk to each other. I'm writing this article for your kind of woman that is uncertain, not the kind who is gung ho and knows what she would like, how she wants it, and is also ready to tell you how to get it done down to the last detail.

The question you have to ask yourself is, what exactly is it about making use of it on her that you simply find compelling? I will assume that 1. you need her to feel pleasure, and discover it arousing and satisfying to visualize this new physical experience that will bring her great pleasure and two. you will find it visually stimulating to watch it happen.

I would recommend that you speak to her with an appropriate time, snuggling about the couch, out for drinks, not mid coitus or when she is trying to put screaming kids to bed, and ask her if she's ever considered bringing toys into your lovemaking. Then, express that it is a big switch on for you to imagine one on her. Don't react if she disapproves, or responds negatively. You're communicating how to learn about each other and you want to know who she is and what her desires are too.

From there, ask what sorts of toys she has used in the past, how they felt, plus which way she used them. If she actually is negative, discover what her experiences are. Learn why, along with what happened! Be compassionate and understanding and don't view this in the sole angle of having her to do something you want. Respect that she doesn't want it to get a reason and find out what the reason is. I hated cunnilingus until my current partner, and believe me it was not because I had not enjoyed a lot of it. Oral sex was on my "just don't do it" list and i also was adamant about it because I won't do sex that does not feel good. However, my partner went this route after some time I really asked HIM if he would do it if you ask me. He took it gentle steps at the same time, never overwhelming or hurting me and now... well now I can not get enough, in every form, with or without toys. Remember, if she's apprehensive open her up, don't push things to be with her.